Better Together – the Power of Marriage
First of all, we need to agree that every single one of us is broken. Yes, we know your spouse is more broken and we’re sure you can prove it, but so are you. Before reading any further, there must be agreement on this point. Repeat after us: We are all broken.
Now that we have that out of the way we can focus on being better together. We have four points for you to remember, and if you’ve read this far, you’ve already agreed to #1 above. Next, #2: Your marriage is under attack on a consistent basis by an invisible third party. He is a skilled and crafty liar, manipulator, deceiver and bringer of shame. He is constantly trying to bring strife and chaos into your marriage. He is the Devil and the Bible calls him the father of lies. The sooner you can both agree that he is at work, the easier the next two steps will be.
There is an invisible enemy, but we are not alone. There is also the Holy Spirit, and Ephesians 4:23 commands that we “Let the spirit renew your thoughts and attitudes.” This truth brings us to #3, which is that conflict in marriage is normal. It’s how we handle conflict that matters. How different would conflict look in your marriage if you started with these beliefs: My spouse is for me, my spouse’s heart is inclined toward me? We think this is revolutionary. When we feel safe and secure, we’re not stressed or defensive with our fists up looking for a fight. Ask the Holy Spirit to work, and He will renew you because that’s what He does.
The last of the four is really of first importance, and we saved the best for last. Point #4 is God first, God only. It really is that simple. When we are focused first on what God wants for us, pressing into Him, hearing His voice, and abiding in His presence, we change. When God is first, He is our focus. In this way we will find ourselves more interested in growing in Him and seeing how He’s changing us, instead of focusing on the shortcomings of our spouse.
Friends, despite what Facebook, Instagram and Pinterest would have you believe, love is a violent act of war. Ephesians 6:11 commands, “Put on the full armor of God so that you will be able to stand firm against the schemes of the devil.” Embrace the awkward. Pray together. Invite the Holy Spirit into your marriage. Be renewed, refreshed and transformed. Be steadfast. Be better together. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.
Jason and Ewa Barnaby
Revelation Wellness Ambassador Instructors
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