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All you need is 10 minutes…

All you need is 10 minutes…

Revelation Wellness January 23, 2019 (24) comments

Almost every afternoon when we pull in from school, I try to implement a “10-minute break” for our family. There are only 2 rules:

  1. You must be by yourself, and
  2. You may not disrupt anyone’s quiet time.

Ideally, no crazy after-school sensory overload: no screens, no fighting, nobody asking if I can take them a million places I didn’t plan to. I am so grateful for social kids who generally love school and thrive there, but we all need time to stop and just be. My kids can have BIG emotions after school, which is understandable. They have been working hard, following rules, and interacting with people and different situations all day long. This short break allows all of us to breathe and stop doing for just a few minutes.

Our days are busy, and my kids are expected to show self-control, patience, and maturity as they go through their days. Still, we all need time to stop and FEEL.

What was this day like for my kids? What behaviors they are exhibiting are giving me clues as to how their days might have gone? What do they need from me? How can I remind them that home is a sanctuary where they can truly be themselves?

I’m not the mom who can naturally approach the attitudes, short fuses and quick tears of my children with grace and patience. I want to be. The rest break is maybe a gift to me most of all! I need to stop and feel as well. I need God to check and prepare my heart before I go into a situation where I will do more harm than good.

What was this day like for me? Why is the behavior of my kids feeling so heavy right now? What do I need from the Lord in order to love my family well?

Lord, help me notice the needs of my family and approach them with grace and without offense.

Thank goodness not all days are crazy or overwhelming. Many days my kids get in the car with smiles on their faces and are happy to be together again. I praise God for those days! But we make sure to continue to implement rest on the simple days as well, stopping to feel joy and contentment. It helps us practice gratitude and reminds us that we don’t stop and seek the Lord only in times of need. We seek the Lord at all times!

Because I can pull the mom card and break my own “rules”, I have often used those ten minutes to prepare a snack for my kids. Through making a snack for them, I experience the joy of being able to “present” my kids with something thoughtful when they come downstairs from resting. This helps us enter back into our day smoothly, preparing us for the “How was your day?” conversation ahead.

This small change in the rhythm of our afternoons has helped us all grow in patience and readiness to approach the rest of our day together. But to be honest, my children won’t always rest willingly.  I’m still in the “Ten minutes isn’t up yet, and please don’t ask again until I tell you it’s over” stage with one of my kids. They still roll their eyes when I say, “Yes, we’re still doing ten minutes today.” But if I never teach them to slow down and let the happenings of the day sink in, they just might become products of a culture that is chronically busy and missing the beauty of life in the hyperspeed of all things.

And guess what? I’ve been there, and it’s not what I want for my kids.

Kids or no kids, rest is necessary. Big emotions are indicative of hearts that need tender love and care. Stop and consider the things you’ve been faced with today, and hand them over to the God who can hold the weight of it all.

What rhythms can you implement in your life to help you pay attention to what’s really going on in your heart and in the hearts of those around you? What small change can you make today that will change how you approach tomorrow or even just the next half hour?

 

Courtney is a pastor’s wife and mother of two from Indiana. She says leading fitness classes would’ve been the last thing she’d imagined for herself, so it’s a good thing God is in charge! She discovered her passion for fitness after being dragged to a class by a friend and learning that God can take your insecurities and make them His biggest tools to spread the gospel! She and Katrina (the friend who dragged her to class!) now teach classes together at Revelation Wellness – Anderson, Indiana (Facebook).

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Stacy Baldwin January 23, 2019

COURTNEY THANK YOU!!! I BROKE MY NO TECH IN THE MORNING RULE TO READ THIS AND BOY DID GOD USE IT! I NEEDED THIS, THANK YOU THANK YOU!! Not sure why it’s all in caps, couldn’t change it, but i think it fits haha

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ad_gabby January 23, 2019

We're so glad it blessed you, Stacy! A no-tech morning, I like the sound of that!

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Ruth Ann January 23, 2019

courtney, you are such a blessing to our family and to all to come in contact with you. You have truly been called to do this and you do it well. I thank god every day you are in the Fair family and taking such good care of my son and grandchildren. even at my age and an empty nest it's good to have "quiet" time. thank you.

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Vanessa January 23, 2019

THank you FOR THIS BLOG. I TEND TO GET VERY SHORT FUSED WITH MY KIDS AFTER SCHOOL WHEN THEY ARE HYPER ACTIVE AND KNOW HOW TO PUSH MY BUTTONS. I AM GOING TO TRY THE 10 MINUTE RULE!

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ad_gabby January 23, 2019

We pray this practice blesses you and your family! Let us know how it goes :) and give yourself grace, Mama! You're doing well!

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ad_gabby January 23, 2019

Thank you for reading and being a part of the Revelation Wellness Community! Courtney is a blessing to this ministry!

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Jamie January 23, 2019

Thank you for this post! I had a very bad reaction to my child yesterday after a GRUELING day. I needed to hear your words today and forgive myself for not always being my best self for my sweet beautiful girl. thank god he gives us new beginnings every single day!

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ad_gabby January 23, 2019

Thank you for sharing, Jamie! The Lord does give you grace! We pray this practice will bless you and your family!

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Kim Todd January 23, 2019

Love this.

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ad_gabby January 23, 2019

Thanks for reading, Kim! Let us know how these 10 minutes impact you and your family!

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Rosemary January 23, 2019

My kids are grown and Grands live ou of stAte, but im going to Do do this with them when we are together and practice for myself. I also like the no tech morning! It can really get me off track at times. Great blog!

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ad_gabby January 23, 2019

Great idea! You can even use this as a practice before bed or after something stressful. Thanks for reading!

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Dee Snider January 23, 2019

So thankful for this! What a simple, but useful idea. I have no kids or grandkids at home, however I do have a husband. I think this is perfect for interacting with anyone. we all need to take the 10 minutes, or maybe longer to just be! God is so good all the time! Courtney, thanks for the great reminder

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LONI SALATA January 23, 2019

Thank you for sharing this Courtney. My 6 month old is in daycare Monday thru Friday and I have already noticed that her and i both can use a "10 minute" quiet/snuggle time to decompress from the day and reconnect before launching in to our evening dinner/bath time routine. I think your idea is excellent and will try to continue this practice for her as i definitely agree there is significant value in allowing ourselves to rest and process our emotions. thanks again and have a wonderful day.

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ad_gabby January 23, 2019

Thanks for sharing, Loni! We're thankful this practice will bless you and your little girl! :)

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ad_gabby January 23, 2019

You are totally right! This is a great practice for couples at any stage in life. We're thankful this blessed you!

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Amy January 23, 2019

Thank you!

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ad_gabby January 23, 2019

Enjoy!

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Tonia January 23, 2019

Thank you for this. why is this all caps?1 I promise i'm not yelling at you. lol. what a glorious precious gift for our family if we start to do this. so wise! lets all jump off the hamster wheel so to speak. god speed ;-)

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ad_gabby January 23, 2019

Yes! We are cheering you and your family on! Thanks for following us on the blog :)

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Debi January 30, 2019

Just now had the opportunity to read this! Wonderful advice that I plan to follow!

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ad_gabby January 30, 2019

We're so glad this blessed you Debi! Thanks for reading and being a part of the Revelation Wellness community!

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Melissa February 6, 2019

Thank you Courtney! This is a great idea and one my family can benefit from! You are a blessing

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ad_gabby February 6, 2019

We're so glad this blesses you and your family!

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