Almost every afternoon when we pull in from school, I try to implement a “10-minute break” for our family. There are only 2 rules:
- You must be by yourself, and
- You may not disrupt anyone’s quiet time.
Ideally, no crazy after-school sensory overload: no screens, no fighting, nobody asking if I can take them a million places I didn’t plan to. I am so grateful for social kids who generally love school and thrive there, but we all need time to stop and just be. My kids can have BIG emotions after school, which is understandable. They have been working hard, following rules, and interacting with people and different situations all day long. This short break allows all of us to breathe and stop doing for just a few minutes.
Our days are busy, and my kids are expected to show self-control, patience, and maturity as they go through their days. Still, we all need time to stop and FEEL.
What was this day like for my kids? What behaviors they are exhibiting are giving me clues as to how their days might have gone? What do they need from me? How can I remind them that home is a sanctuary where they can truly be themselves?
I’m not the mom who can naturally approach the attitudes, short fuses and quick tears of my children with grace and patience. I want to be. The rest break is maybe a gift to me most of all! I need to stop and feel as well. I need God to check and prepare my heart before I go into a situation where I will do more harm than good.
What was this day like for me? Why is the behavior of my kids feeling so heavy right now? What do I need from the Lord in order to love my family well?
Lord, help me notice the needs of my family and approach them with grace and without offense.
Thank goodness not all days are crazy or overwhelming. Many days my kids get in the car with smiles on their faces and are happy to be together again. I praise God for those days! But we make sure to continue to implement rest on the simple days as well, stopping to feel joy and contentment. It helps us practice gratitude and reminds us that we don’t stop and seek the Lord only in times of need. We seek the Lord at all times!
Because I can pull the mom card and break my own “rules”, I have often used those ten minutes to prepare a snack for my kids. Through making a snack for them, I experience the joy of being able to “present” my kids with something thoughtful when they come downstairs from resting. This helps us enter back into our day smoothly, preparing us for the “How was your day?” conversation ahead.
This small change in the rhythm of our afternoons has helped us all grow in patience and readiness to approach the rest of our day together. But to be honest, my children won’t always rest willingly. I’m still in the “Ten minutes isn’t up yet, and please don’t ask again until I tell you it’s over” stage with one of my kids. They still roll their eyes when I say, “Yes, we’re still doing ten minutes today.” But if I never teach them to slow down and let the happenings of the day sink in, they just might become products of a culture that is chronically busy and missing the beauty of life in the hyperspeed of all things.
And guess what? I’ve been there, and it’s not what I want for my kids.
Kids or no kids, rest is necessary. Big emotions are indicative of hearts that need tender love and care. Stop and consider the things you’ve been faced with today, and hand them over to the God who can hold the weight of it all.
What rhythms can you implement in your life to help you pay attention to what’s really going on in your heart and in the hearts of those around you? What small change can you make today that will change how you approach tomorrow or even just the next half hour?
Courtney is a pastor’s wife and mother of two from Indiana. She says leading fitness classes would’ve been the last thing she’d imagined for herself, so it’s a good thing God is in charge! She discovered her passion for fitness after being dragged to a class by a friend and learning that God can take your insecurities and make them His biggest tools to spread the gospel! She and Katrina (the friend who dragged her to class!) now teach classes together at Revelation Wellness – Anderson, Indiana (Facebook).
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JESS DOAN’S AMRAP & TABATA – “C.A.L.M.”
This AMRAP and Tabata will be sure to get your heart rate up. You will be given a set amount of time, you will perform as many rounds as possible with a given set of exercises to do in a set amount of time. Brave yourself and push to your physical limit. No pride-filled spirits, please! You aren’t strong enough for this workout, but HE is! (BEGINNER) (HAND WEIGHTS; PHILIPIANS 4:4-8)