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What do your children see and hear?

What do your children see and hear?

Revelation Wellness February 16, 2019 (12) comments

The girl with the blonde pigtails toddled over to the full-length mirror. Having watched her momma get dressed for work every morning, she knew the ritual well: a sidelong glance full of sadness, suck in the stomach, make a quarter turn to review the rear angle, sigh dejectedly.

Although hardly able to articulate full-length sentences, this precious two year old could easily emulate her mother’s disgusted response to her own reflection. Those big baby blues had soaked it all in.

As my friend shared this story with me early in our years of motherhood, my heart was pierced. Then, during my years as an elementary school teacher, the burden I felt in regards to the body image struggles of young girls grew. I specifically remember the exact moment God told me something needed to change.

One of my typically reserved fifth-graders returned to our classroom from delivering her Krispy Kreme birthday treats, excitedly announcing: “Mrs. So-and-So ACTUALLY took one of my doughnuts! She’s FINALLY not on a DIET!”

And the avalanche of confused comments began.

“I don’t know why she’s always on a diet anyway. She’s so skinny!”

“If SHE has to be on a diet, what does that mean for me? I’m WAY fatter than she is!”

“But she goes to Steak n’ Shake every day for lunch! And has a Big Gulp soda too!”

“Remember when she used to take a birthday treat but then throw it in the trash? What a waste!”

The next generation is listening to our critical comments and watching our responses more closely than we realize. We shouldn’t be surprised when body image and eating disorders plague so many, or when we continue to see unhealthy relationships between food and our bodies. We can do better. We must do better.

If we want to raise up the next generation well, we need to RISE UP ourselves! But how?

1) Get off the crazy “diet” train. Maybe even ban the word from your vocabulary. Eat foods that God (not factories) created, and give yourself grace. The gift of eating is meant to be enjoyed, not destroyed by a set of rigid rules.

So go ahead. Eat your food with joy… -Eccl 9:7 NLT

2) Look at yourself with love. You are the Creator’s masterpiece. He designed you perfectly. No mistakes. Let your reflection be a reminder to take care of your temple, but never respond with resentment. It’s an insult to your Heavenly Father.

For we are God’s masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things he planned for us long ago. Eph 2:10 NLT

3) Be a light to those still learning. In a world full of airbrushed ads and critical negativity, someone has to stand above the chaos and shine some perspective. The younger generation needs to see that there is a different path.

In the same way, let your light shine before others, so that they may see your good works and give glory to your Father who is in heaven. -Matthew 5:16 NIV

I know many of us have experienced the exact same confusion and criticism in our own childhood, and perhaps still struggle with it ourselves today, but how will the cycle ever end if no one RISES UP? It’s time for a change.

If you’re ready to finally be free, perhaps it’s time to find a Rev Fit class or Wellness Revelation group near you or online through Rev Well TV.  If you’re ready to help others break free, maybe the Lord is leading you to Instructor Training.

Even if you simply want to stand against self-loathing and negativity in your inner circle of influence, please know that the ripple of your response has the power to break the chains of food and fitness slavery for generations to come.

I pray that my children’s children will experience only love and gratitude when they look at their own reflection in a full-length mirror.

In the comments below tell us how you have seen the effects of adults’ attitudes and comments toward “dieting” and body image on the younger generation? What have you been inspired to do about it?

Dawn Miles is a homeschooling momma of two boys and a dedicated Wake Forest Demon Deacon sports fan thanks to her husband’s career. She’s been a Revelation Wellness Instructor since 2017 and is the founder of Everyday Faith + Fitness, where she encourages others to live well and love life through freedom in Christ.

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Sarah glover February 16, 2019

I love this teaching. I have 2 daughters and 3 boys. I am especially aware of what my daughter’s see and hear from me. I have been working hard for years to talk about being healthy instead of skinny. Making good food choices that lead to health and Wholeness and moving our bodies for optimal mental health. I also Refuse To use pIcture filters. I try to do “one and done” selfies Unless oUr eyes are closed. All this is In an attempt to live Authentically for my kids and those I influence as well as maintaining the right relationship with God and myself.

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Gabby W. February 16, 2019

Thank you so much for sharing, Sarah! This is good work!

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nichole harrison February 16, 2019

As a mother of three little girls i am very passionate about this! when i was young, growing up in california, a place that celebrates their small minded and shallow idea of beauty. I STRUGGLES WITH MY BODY IMAGE AND SELF WORTH. I WAS ALWAYS ON SOME SORT OF DIET TRYING TO REACH THAT MARKER OF BEAUTY THAT WOULD MAKE ME FEEL LOVED AND ENOUGH. AND EVEN WHEN I DID REACH MY GOAL, MY INNER IDENTITY STRUGGLE WAS NOT SOLVED. I FOUND REVELATION WELLNESS A FEW YEARS AGO AND THAT IS WHERE MY HEALING JOURNEY BEGAN. I HAD THREE LITTLE GIRLS AND I WAS DESPERATE FOR THEM TO NOT INHERITE MY STRUGGLE OR MY EATING DISORDER. IT TRULY PLAGUED ME EVERY DAY OF MY LIFE! IT HAS BEEN THREE OR SO YEARS NOW SINCE I FOUND REV AND IVE BECOME AN INSTRUCTOR. IT HAS BEEN SLOW PROGRESS OF HEALING BUT GOD IS LITERALLY TEARING DOWN MY FOUNDATION AND REBUILDING, BECAUSE IT WAS NEVER ABOUT THE FOOD OR MY BODY. MY KIDS ARE WATCHING AND I CAN ONLY GIVE THEM WHAT I HAVE SO IT STARTS WITH ME. I AM DETERMINED TO CONTINUE ON MY PATH OF HEALING WITH GOD AND ONE DAY I WILL HAVE COMPLETE HEALING. FOR NOW, I PRESS IN, TRUST HIS PROCESS, AND PRAY FOR MY CHILDREN, HE HAS GOT THEM!

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Gabby W. February 16, 2019

Thank you for sharing Nichole! We praise the Lord with you for your healing and the generational chains that are breaking! You're doing good work!

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Linda Wilson February 16, 2019

Thank you fir this message. As an adult i am the one who has the negative self image because of childhood. My weight really got out of hand after my daughter passed and now im desperately trying to change it. I am obese at 54 and i dont want to die this way. Im trying to learn my identity is in jesus christ not what my father told me i was or my mother’s rejection. I have lost weight and gaoned back. I have done diets and failed. I feel that is because i didnt know how i was. Today my prayer daily is to look in the mirror and see myselF through God’s eyes. Thanks for all you do

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Michelle Brumgard February 16, 2019

Dawn, tHIS IS SO good! I pray this same prayer for my children and childrens' children.

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Gabby W. February 16, 2019

Thank you, Michelle! We are praying this prayer with you!

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Gabby W. February 16, 2019

Thank you for sharing, Linda! The Lord is with you in this!

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CarriE Long February 17, 2019

Wow just wow! Sorry for the caps but i cant turn them off! Lol thank you so much for this life giving message! This is incredible. Ive struggled with body image so much my whole life. Even as a christian i developed an eating disorder. I fjnally got out of the diet mentalIty but every day is a struggle to feel out of control if im not eating on a plan! God is working on me in this area..to just let go and trust my body that he gave me that is gooood!

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Mandy February 18, 2019

I was taught dieting from a very early age. I remember the shame i felt when my parents told me i needed to lose weight. I went through cycles of not eating at all, extreme diets, And neglect. I found comfort in my grandma, however she comforted me with her amaZing food. Now as a mom, i struggle big time!!! I want so badly to break generational chains!!!! But occasionally, i find myself comforting my children with food “baked with love.” Or, Thr extreme oppOsite and trashing everything Unhealthy in the house. I feel like im seNding mixed signals and fear my children will follOw my cycle of living in a shameFul relationship with food.

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Gabby W. February 18, 2019

Thank you for sharing, Carrie! You are not alone in this struggle. We're thankful you're in this community!

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Gabby W. February 18, 2019

Thank you for sharing, Mandy! You are not stuck in this place and the Lord will guide you in breaking these generational chains!

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